A CHRISTMAS STORY

   

It's just a small, white envelope stuck among the branches of our Christmas tree.  No name, no identification, no inscription.  It has peeked through the branches of our tree for the past 10 years or so.  It all began because my husband, Mike, hated Christmas, oh, not the true meaning of   Christmas, but the commercial aspects of it. The overspending,  the frantic running around at the last minute to get a tie for Uncle Harry and the dusting powder for Grandma, the gifts given in desperation because you couldn't think of anything else.   

Knowing he felt this way, I decided one year to bypass the usual shirts, sweaters, ties and so forth. I reached for something special just for Mike. The inspiration came in an unusual way. Our son was wrestling at  a non-league match against a team sponsored by an inner-city church. These youngsters, dressed in sneakers so ragged that shoestrings seemed to be the only thing holding them together, presented a sharp contrast to our boys in their spiffy blue and gold uniforms and sparkling new wrestling shoes. I was alarmed to see the other team wrestling without headgear to protect the wrestler's ears.  It was a luxury the ragtag team could not afford. Well, we walloped them.  We took every weight class.  My husband Mike,  seated beside me said, shook his head sadly, "I wish just one of them could have won.  They have a lot of potential, but losing like this could take the heart right out of them."  Mike loved kids - all kids - and he knew them having coached little league, football, baseball and lacrosse. That's when the idea for his present came.

That afternoon, I went to a local sporting goods store and bought  an assortment of wrestling headgear and shoes and sent them anonymously to the inner city church.  On Christmas Eve, I placed the envelope on the tree, the note inside telling Mike what I had done and that this was his gift from me. His smile was the brightest thing about     Christmas that year and in succeeding years.   

For each Christmas, I followed the tradition: one year sending a group of  mentally handicapped youngsters to a hockey game.  Another year,  a check to a pair of elderly brothers whose home had burned down to the ground one week before Christmas.  And so on...

 The envelope became the highlight of our Christmas.  It was always the last  thing opened on Christmas morning and our children, ignoring their new toys, would stand with wide-eyed anticipation as their dad lifted the envelope from the tree to reveal its contents.   

As the children grew, the toys gave way to more practical presents,  but the envelope never lost its allure.  The story doesn't end there.  You see, we lost Mike last year due to dreaded cancer.  When Christmas rolled  around,  I was still so wrapped in grief that I barely got the tree up.  But

Christmas Eve found me placing an envelope on the tree, and in the morning,  it was joined by three more.

Each of our children, unbeknownst to the others, had placed an envelope on the tree for their dad.  The tradition has grown and someday will expand even further with our grandchildren standing around the tree with wide-eyed anticipation watching as their fathers take down the envelope. Mike's spirit,  like the Christmas spirit, will always be with us.